Self Love > World

Self-love is not at all selfish and is very different from narcissistic. Loving yourself only means giving enough care, attention, sympathy, love to yourself, the way you can give it to other people in your life.

I firmly believe in the ‘odd truth’ that ‘we cannot love others if we cannot love ourselves.’ And why not? If you cannot accept your flaws or you cannot love the way you are, how can you expect from yourself to love another person? One should know all the blemishes and strengths about themselves. So don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first. 

There is no harm in making yourself a priority for once in a while. But this does not mean at all that you have to be satisfied with all of your qualities. In fact loving yourself will encourage you to make some improvements in yourself.

You got to accept that self-love will mark a great impact in your body: either it is internally or externally. You will see some affirmative changes in yourself. You will feel confident and charismatic. Loving yourself will fruit you to less depressed and more satisfied.

You can try to concentrate on your vitality instead of your flaws. Or you can (just like me) try to transform your weaknesses into your strong points.
You can find a number of blogs on the internet on ‘how to love yourself’, but no one can teach you this. Every person’s qualities are different and unique in its own ways. So, the way you love yourself or show care to yourself is going to be different. For example, I love writing about myself in a diary. Maybe this is my way to show care to me.

P. S

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. – Lucille Ball

And it goes on and on...

"And one more girl was raped"

When will the time come when the daughters, mothers, wives and sisters will be able to walk on the streets of Delhi without the fear of being raped. Every time I take a step  outside my home, an agitation always bashes my body. What if someone is following me? What if someone throws acid on me? What if I get raped?

And when the fear, covers my soul, I think "how will I face my parents after that? How will my friends revert? Will they judge me? My life will be wrecked. I won't be able to do anything."

I seriously get resentful with this daily news of rapes. Everyday hundreds of girls are brutally raped. Some minors, some adults and some elder citizens (yes!). Even after all these things, only the girls are told to stay in the house and to take precautions.

Only the men drink. Ek achche ghar ki ladki sharaab nahi peeti (a reputed family’s daughter doesn’t drink). Aur jo karti hai aisi harkate, unke sath yahi hota hai (and whoever does that, they face rape).”

And what about "ache ghar ke ladke". Wasn't this supposed to be applicable to them too. But no. These so-called "rules" are for girls only. If a girl comes late, she is characterless. As Amitabh Bacchan said in the movie Pink, "humare yahan ghadi ki sui character decide karti hai".

It's such a pity that the country, where goddesses are worshipped with such zeal, can't even respect girls.

People often blame the clothing of girls for the rape. If a girl is wearing a short skirt, she will definitely get raped as her short clothes give a hint and she is inviting you for sex. If she laughs with you or she touches you, it's an open invitation that she wants to do something. India is a place where length of the clothes decide the character of a girl.


P.S.

1. Indian society teaches "not to get raped" rather than "don't rape".

2. Inspired by the movie "Pink".

My college journey.

Then one day my cousin brother said "college life is preeminent. You will have great fun." And I was like how can going away from our old friends would make our life better.

Now, I am here. Finally a college going girl. And I am so happy to accept this fact that my life was never this splendid. As they say, in school, you worry about what looks cool but in college, you're too busy to care about what other people think.

Before entering college, my biggest fear was leaving my old friends behind and starting a new life with some random people. Maybe I wasn't prepared to leave my comfort zone.

I remember my first day of college. We went to Mall of India. That was a big move for me. I am a social person but going out with a bunch of people whom you just met some few hours ago, was definitely a decision.

It's almost two months since my college started, and I feel so serene with my batch mates. Some of them are really great and sometimes I feel, I've known them for years. Even the seniors are cool and extrovert. I don't even feel that they were strangers to me few days back.

There's one thing I've learned in college, that is, you never lose your old Friends. In fact, you add some people in that edition. I still meet my school Friends. I am still close to them. We still bond very well.

School was fun, but was restricted in some ways. College will cater you many opportunities to explore the surroundings and as well as yourself.

College will always keep you busy with it's activities. You will never be bored if you wanna do something.

P.S.

If you are in school and afraid of college, don't be. Just prepare yourself for the best journey of your life.